About me

My life would be simpler if I didn’t care—

If I gave little thought to national issues such as elections, equal opportunities for all within our justice system, the disintegration of our environment, women’s reproductive rights.

My life would be simpler if I didn’t care about relationships—if I gave little thought to the man I married when I was twenty-one, my adult children, my grandchildren, to the well-being of friends.

But I do pay attention. I do think about issues and people. And I respond to my thoughts and concerns through writing.Nancy 2014

Though born in Indiana, I grew up in Orlando, Florida, when it was still a sleepy little southern town. For more than twenty years my husband and I lived in the Chicago area. In 2008, to be closer to our children and grandchildren, we returned to the South, to North Carolina. So I’m either a Midwesterner who’s been influenced by my southern upbringing or a Southerner influenced by midwestern ways.

Friends think of me as having a positive outlook, but I can quickly create a list of negatives—things I DON”T do. I don’t cook. I don’t have a pet, nor do I want one. I don’t serve on committees. I haven’t adjusted well to technology (not even to the telephone).

I DO like sunshine and feel nostalgic for the days when we assumed it was safe to bake on a beach towel. I like time to myself. I like books. I travel every chance I get, and if I anticipate staying home for a while, I take trips vicariously by watching Rick Steves on PBS. I’ve had the opportunity to visit Europe, Africa, South America, and Asia. In 2005 and 2008 my husband was invited to teach a semester in Seoul, ROK. We both came to love Korea and its people, who taught us much about hospitality.

Finally, I treasure time spent with my husband, Jim, our children, and grandchildren.

Recent Posts

Who pays when we prohibit abortions?

Of course, it’s not about money. But money (the cost of bread and milk and gasoline) seems to be driving voters’ decisions about who to vote for in the Midterms. Why can’t the financial consequences of prohibiting abortions also become part of that decision?

I admit I got a C in economics, so I’m not the one to do a cost analysis. However, a woman’s common sense informs me at times like this. 

In early October, Brookings Institution analyzed U.S. Agriculture Department data and calculated: “From the day your baby is born until the day they turn 18, your family will spend about $310,605 — or about $17,000 a year” https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/interactive/2022/cost-raising-child-calculator/.

Imagine a family of four or five, a mother whose income the family depends on, a single mother—imagine their paying for housing (a larger house might be necessary), education (not including college), food, transportation, health care, and clothing for one more child.

The $310,605 does NOT include what an influx of children will cost the community. We’ll need more schools, more teachers, more after-school programs, more police (as the kids become teens and get stopped for speeding, carrying pot, and disturbing the peace). All this paid for with TAX DOLLARS.

But wait. Republicans accuse Democrats of increasing taxes. So will Republicans pass legislation to pay for community services? Of course not. Why? Because the majority of those kids will be born to low-income women. We’ll hear more about “welfare mothers” who sap our country’s financial resources. The affluent white population will assume these women are Black.

Many will label single mothers promiscuous. Some will blame mothers for staying at home to care for their children instead of working. Some will accuse mothers who work low-wage jobs—women who cannot afford childcare, forced to leave children unsupervised—of child-neglect.  

Meanwhile, affluent white women are more able to travel out of state for an abortion. Their right to privacy remains intact. Their status as respectable citizens remains intact.

As soon as the Supreme Court struck down Roe, the radical right-to-life people spoke of how precious each embryo is. They made statements praising adoption and pledged community support for women forced to bear children. I don’t believe it. 

Mothers and families aren’t the only ones to pay the price. We all will bear the financial burdens. Have Republicans proposed a budget for this?

Of course, it’s not about money.

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